Funeral Etiquette

The way we dress for a funeral service and how we behave has changed over time. The Bible says in 1Corinthians 14:40, "Let all things be done decently and in order." Therefore, here are a few idea to keep in mind when it comes to funeral etiquette.

Making a Difficult Time Easier

Please take into account any religious, ethnic or personal considerations. It is important to be respectful of the emotions of the family.

Here are a few things expected of you:

-Offer Expressions of Sympathy.

We can sometimes be at a loss for words when dealing with something as final as death. Always be respectful and listen closely when spoken to, and offer your won words of condolence. It is alright to say, "I am sorry for your loss."

-What is the Dress Code.

Certain customs dictate what we should and should not wear. Sometimes the deceased has specified the dress code. If you don't  know the wishes of the family, then dress conservatively, and avoid bright colors

-Give a Gift.

Flowers, a donation to the family or to their favorite charity or even a commitment of service at a later date; All of these are acceptable gifts. Make sure to always provide a signed card to the family so they will know what gift was given and by whom.

-Signing the Register Book.

When signing the register book always remember to include your relationship to the deceased. For example: co-worker, barber, or gym-buddy. This helps the family to place who you are in the future.

-Keep in Touch.

Always remember that for the family the grieving does not end with the funeral. A phone call, card or short visit is usually acceptable days after the funeral service.

Things that we Should not do

-Don't feel that you have to stay.
When making a visit during calling hours your visit does not have to be a long one.

-Don't feel that you have to view the deceased if there is an open casket.
Do what is comfortable to you.

-Don't let your children be a disturbance.
If your children are not used to a somber atmosphere maybe leaving them with a sitter is more appropriate. However, if the deceased meant something to the children, then it is a good idea to let them share in the experience.

-Don't leave your cell phone on
Please switch it off before entering the funeral home or you could leave it in the car. It is poor etiquette to check your cell phone for messages during the funeral service

-Don't forget to step into the receiving line.
Simply express to the family how sorry you are for their loss. Give them your name and how you know the deceased.

-Don't be too hard on yourself if you make a mistake.
Mistakes can and will happen. If you make a mistake, apologize to the family.

-Once the funeral is over continue to give the family love and support.

As always, Albright Funeral Home, Inc. is available to answer any questions or concerns that you may have, please call us at (919) 362-8329